We all have haters in our lives. There are those that just don’t like you and have a problem with everything you do. What if there was not one way but five to turn a hater into a lifelong supporter? Here are five ways to turn that hater’s frown upside down.
1. Nod your head when speaking
Nodding your head when speaking makes someone more likely to agree with what you are saying even when they really disagree. This tactic works especially well on a hater because you are not only speaking with words but body language as well. Nodding your head communicates that what you are saying is true and that your words have value and are desirable. This makes the hater more likely to listen to what you have to say instead of just dismissing you.
2. Get them to do you a favor
Multiple studies have been conducted showing that getting someone to do a favor for you increases your attractiveness in their eyes. This is because asking someone for a favor shows that you trust them. After getting a hater to agree with something you have said, try getting them to do a small favor for you. This will build rapport with them and you will be one step closer to turning that hater into a supporter.
3. The open palm technique
Gestures made with open palms signal trust which makes someone more likely to agree with you. These types of gestures make you seem more friendly as well whereas gestures made with a finger or closed fist make you come off as aggressive. Using more open gestures tackles one of the root causes of someone being a hater, and that is they just don’t trust you. Next time you’re speaking with a hater, use more open gestures.
4. Find their passion
People love to talk about their passion. They love it, even more, when someone else appears interested in that passion. Next time you are speaking with a hater, find out what they really like. Then, go and do some research on that topic so you can have an intelligent conversation about it and appear interested. This will surely cause the hater to realize you are not so bad because you seem to be interested in the same things or at least you were willing to take the time to try and understand them.
5. Use their name
People love to hear the sound of their own name. If a person is being a hater, try using their name during a conversation with them. This will show them you think of them as a person and took the time to actually learn and remember who they are. As a result, they will trust you more.
Remember, if a person is being a hater, nod your head, ask them about their passion, and use open gestures along with their name in conversation. Also, ask them to do you a small favor afterwards.